I’m a little more than halfway through my pregnancy, and along with learning that everything is normal and also a reason to panic, I’m learning that people LOVE to talk to pregnant women about babies and kids.
Here’s the thing: I don’t like babies and kids. I don’t think they’re cute, or “worth it,” or “the best thing that will ever happen to you.” I think they’re alright. And I figure I’ll dig my own kid when she arrives. But I don’t have much interest in them beyond that.
But being pregnant when you don’t like kids is like taking up a hobby you have no interest in.
I’ve been child-free my whole life. And even though I’m pregnant now, it doesn’t change the fact that I don’t enjoy pregnancy, kids, babies, or talking about pregnancy, kids and babies.
I like that I can come to this space (my blog and Instagram) when I feel like I have the energy and interest in talking/learning about pregnancy and babies.
But IRL, it’s all anyone wants to talk to me about 24/7!
No, I don’t want to talk about your breastfeeding journey while I’m trying to watch a concert. I don’t want to hear your labor horror story when I’m at the dog park. I definitely don’t want to talk about your kids in yoga class. Or hear about how I’ll never enjoy travel or restaurants again once I become a parent because that was how YOU did (or didn’t) do it. Or pretend like I’m excited about having a kid when I’m just so fucking over it.
I had no idea I was going to be jumped into a gang that I feel no loyalty towards.
I have realized there are TWO different categories of people that I talk to now:
- If their response to me admitting that I’m more terrified than excited about this whole experience is something like, “sounds about right.” Then we can hang, and I’m happy to talk shop with them.
- If their response is something like, “Oh, you’ll forget all about being scared once you see your precious little baby in your arms. It changes your life in the best way. I’ve had 5 kids and they’re worth it all. Here lemme show you photos and tell you about how I could tell their personalities in the womb…” These are the people that need to STFU and get away from me.
Anyone else sick of all the baby talk? Or am I, once again, just being the biggest bummer of a pregnant lady.