Now that I’m no longer bleeding after my miscarriage, and I’m starting to feel less wildly emotional, I’m realizing that my cycle is probably returning to normal. Another way I’m feeling my systems slowly coming back online is that getting horny again — which was something I was super NOT feeling when I was pregnant. So that’s convenient because…
I guess it’s time to start trying to get pregnant again.
I’ve heard that you’re supposed to wait a couple of cycles before trying again. But my OBGYN admitted to telling patients that for years without really knowing why doctors were “supposed” to say that. He called bullshit on his past advice, and he encouraged us to try again as soon as we felt like it. And I’m starting to feel like it.
I thought that I wouldn’t feel like getting pregnant after a miscarriage for a while.
So I’m surprised that in the end, I feel like I want to try again this soon. Part of it is that I miss the excitement of being pregnant. But mostly I really want to try to have a kid as close to my sister’s kid as possible. (Her due date is now 10 days before our first kid was supposed to be born. Ugh, that gets me right in the feels.) Besides, if we’re gonna do this, let’s just DO the fucking thing. We’re not getting any younger, ya know?
Of course, I’m nervous about trying again.
I’m feeling anxious all over again — All the old fears I had about the actively trying phase are starting to come back. The added pressure of wanting it for timing reasons also makes it more stressful. Which isn’t the best for, you know, getting pregnant. Sigh.
I know at this point I’m basically blogging into a void, but if anyone’s out there and feels like talking…
I’m super curious about a few things:
- Did you feel like giving up after initial failed pregnancy attempts?
- Did you feel like getting pregnant after a miscarriage asap?
- Did it work?
- How long did it take for you to get pregnant the second time?
- Did you miscarry again? Was it worse the second time?
- Any advice for getting back in the proverbial saddle?